my mother noticed that her 16 year old cat had started to lose weight. He had an appetite and had no noticeable changes in his behavior, but she took him to the vet. They did blood work and gave him fluids and sent them home to wait for the blood tests. That night her cat began to appear sick. He was weak and lathargic and developed diareea (sp). She called the vet the next day and took Shadow in. They gave her the syringe to continue hydrating him, told her that his red cell blood count was low and his kidneys were shutting down. After quite a struggle to hydrate him at home, his diareaa became what she describes as violent. He was also visably in pain. The next day she took him back to the vet, described what had happened and told them that she loved her animal too much to see him in pain, could not afford to continue hydrating him for the rest of his life and wanted to know if it would be kinder to put him down. They didnt answer her, though she said they were very nice, they just told her to wait a few days to see what was going on. That night, my mother was sure that Shadow was dying. He kept struggling to get himself on the bed and then falling off of it,..his suffering is causing her great pain. She lost her mother in hospice two months ago and her boyfriend has recently been diagnosed with cancer. What advice would you give her?